Advice on dating a widower
The widower didn’t choose to move on from his marriage but the divorced man did (in a way).That’s why if you are interested in seeking the companionship of a widower, online dating sites dedicated to the demographic are a great tool. When dating a widower, keep in mind that he may not necessarily want the relationship to turn into a marriage — ever. Then believe him, and pay attention to his actions. Some of you shared your positive experiences and thanked me. I’m happy to say that I’ve never had to experience the grief of losing a spouse. If you’re in early dating, don’t hesitate to have a grownup, direct conversation about his readiness to feel deep connection with another woman. And I want to thank and honor you all for sharing so thoughtfully and honestly.Losing a spouse is one of the most horrible things anyone could experience in life.Having a partner to go through the ups and downs with is a wonderful thing, and not having that anymore can be devastating.
Look, here’s my best advice: know your must have’s, and go into every date looking for at least one thing that is RIGHT about him. It is true that some think they are ready but not (just like after a breakup, right? Don’t assume any specific number of months or years is required until he’s ready. In fact just writing that makes me feel like throwing up.
I advised to have a conversation with him and if he persists…he’s not ready. In the end, my advice is that if a Good Man can give you 95% of himself, but still needs to save 5% for a dead woman with whom he shared decades and probably raised a family, you might be able to give him the gift of letting him remember her fondly…without guilt or shame.
Again, I truly DO love and appreciate hearing from you. What you share here is meaningful to me and also helps inform the thousands of women who are reading these posts.
‘How long should a widow or widower wait before remarrying’, is a frequently asked question, bringing with it many other important reasons to be introspect.
Before the prospect of marriage is even brought into...